Someone asked me, why did you not get angry, you have no SHARAM OR HAYA when someone said bad things about you to do with your mother ?

My question today was about the same thing about children, and everyone said that the children should not fight...

So my question, WHY do we need to be DIFFERENT when we grow up and same rules do not apply ? Why when older people fight like children, we take sides, and not stop them from fighting ?

Rehan Allahwala