If you're a real man, you face problems head on If you avoid a problem and you're a pussy If you're a guy and you don't take direct actions to solve the problem NOW, you're weak and a coward As I needed to prove to society and myself that I was a real man, I became very good at solving problems at the moment they arose When a problem happen, I focused all my energy on resolving it, not matter how much energy and time it was draining from me That made me in many ways a great entrepreneur because problems became my way of life I was proud to call myself a problem solver The issue of course is that some problems are best solved by time, patience and letting go Trying to solve these with sheer force and will power often just makes them worse I was at a party a friend organized and the DJ she invited played very slow music and as a result nobody was dancing Nobody was doing anything but the party was dying I knew that talking directly to the DJ may offend him so I tackled the problem in the most direct way that seemed likely to succeed: I asked the organizer if she could talk to him as he's a friend of hers She told me that there's no need to talk to him and instead, we should dance with high energy just in front of him My first thought was "why is she avoiding to talk to him directly and pussying out because it could cause tension or a conflict" But she's a person I highly respect and who has deep wisdom so I followed her lead And it worked!! 😳🙏🏽🌟🥳 Conflict and tension were at the heart of my life because I had to prove I was a socially accepted image of what a strong man needs to be She showed me a path that I discovered isn't avoiding the problem or being a coward, but a more gentle and indirect solution She inspired me to practice this way of being, and I'm noticing that some problems aren't as problematic anymore Some problems still need a heads on direct approach, but many problems are best solve indirectly and/or with time and patience This more feminine approach to problem solving is a wonderful gift to my life and it's helping me reduce the amount of time I spend solving problems and facing tension and conflicts As a result, I feel lighter and that I now have so much more free time Questions to meditate on: Are you more of a direct or indirect problem solver? If you were to explore the other way of solving problems, what benefits would it give you? Keep loving, keep shining Noam Kostucki